I remember a time of innocence and good fun in America.
Fortunately, as a little boy, I grew up in a working-class neighborhood during the 50s and 60s. My family consisted of a mother, father, brother and sister.
Mom was a stay-at-home expert. She did the administration for my Dad’s small business requiring night work for over 35 years.
Life was not easy but good. We watched “Leave It to Beaver,” “Father Knows Best,” “My Three Sons” and “Bonanza” on black and white television. I played with “Lincoln Logs.”
Men, as fathers, were respected, effective, courageous, sensible and honest as teachers, mentors, and disciplinarians.
They were all, well, fathers.
The consequences in the deterioration in the societal value of “fatherhood” is detrimental to our way of life.
What put us on this downward spiral?
In the 20th century, we had major progress improving the status of women by delivering change, while retaining the core values of family.
Women’s Suffrage, Women’s Rights, Women’s Liberation, Women’s Equality drove major positive action and reform.
In the early 21st century, the issues of women’s progress have morphed into the aggressive #MeToo movement with “sexual assault, toxic masculinity, and most recently, white male Christian privilege.”
All of it at the expense of men.
Female activists now say, “Men are all evil.”
Further, look at today’s media and television shows and how fathers are viewed — mostly as ignorant, bumbling idiots.
The #MeToo movement, originally as courageous and righteous a cause as any, has gone extreme and is one more issue that has knocked men and fathers back on their heels and left them bewildered at the onslaught.
In the African-American community, the plight of the family is well known. It remains a nagging and horrific example of all things going wrong.
The statistics are staggering. In 1938 only 11 percent of black births were to single mothers.
The Daily Signal reported in 1960 just 22 percent of black children were raised in single-parent families.
Last year, in 2017, the National Center for Health Statistics revealed that 77 percent of black births are to single mothers, 49 percent of Hispanic births to single immigrant mothers.
According to Bureau of Justice statistics and Pew Research, over 90 percent of blacks are killed by blacks, mostly teenagers, and commit nearly half of all homicides. Blacks and Hispanics represent over half of our prison population.
Our urban cities are simply not safe with continued increases in rape, armed robbery, burglary, and aggravated assault.
Why is this happening?
Clearly, America has moved away from slavery and discrimination over the last 150 years. Yet, this enlightenment has had no tangible good for minority families. Trillions were spent on poverty and welfare programs. Dependency on government support remains strong.
Without fathers in the home, we cannot expect to see declines in school dropouts, crimes, gangs, drug use, unemployment, prison populations and more unwed mothers.
It is the family that can have the most impact on the welfare of our sons and daughters.
America has a developing culture of irresponsibility. A man has a child and walks away. Even if education is free, students walk away.
Certainly, fatherhood goes well beyond the likes of “Ozzie & Harriet,” but the culture of negativity on all things male will not benefit women as mothers, as unwed mothers, their children or our future.
The family unit is critical. Little or no family guidance for the child is devastating. Single grandparents rearing their children’s children amounts to emergency aid.
Without a father, little boys are lost.
Mothers, many whom are working moms, can only do so much. We see that in schools, on the streets and jails.
Slavery ended centuries ago. Discrimination laws have been in place for decades. We continue to pass laws to protect everyone and make pursuit of happiness a fair opportunity for all. But still, government works against itself in many ways. Immigration laws friendly to families is mandatory.
Welfare laws, requirements about fathers in the home of welfare recipients, educational support, job training, and a multitude of other inhibitors all affect whether there will be a father in the home or not.
Black Professor Walter Williams of George Mason University wrote: “The most damage done to black Americans is inflicted by those politicians, civil rights leaders, and academics who assert that every problem confronting blacks is a result of a legacy of slavery and discrimination. That’s a vision that guarantees perpetuity for the problems.”
We must stop the ideology of government dependency, of victimhood, of oppression.
Fathers must decide to be fathers and fight with mothers for the rights of their families.
Government needs to listen to their concerns and to focus on how to retain, support and promote “familyhood.”
What is at stake is the fate of our little boys.
Without fathers, families are broken.
Without families, American dreams are lost.